By: Emily B.
So dating. It’s not too hard, at first it may seem like it, but soon
enough you’ll become a natural. Here are some things to keep in mind as you
start dating.
Dating typically starts with a crush.
Hopefully you have this particular person in a few of your classes, if not then
maybe you pass them in the hallway or see them outside of school. Feel free to
smile at your crush in the hallway and collect the courage to wave and find out
their name. The important thing to remember is to appear happy and confident.
As cheesy as it may sound, you are good enough for the most popular person in
school as long as you believe in yourself.
Start having conversations with them. Ask
them about the homework, even if you already have it. Ask them what classes
they have, even if you already know. If you find out if he likes you and he
asks you out then awesome! If not then he probably doesn’t have good taste.
Ok, so you’ve had the status change from
“single” to “in a relationship”. What now? What should you do, just keep waving
and smiling and asking about homework? NO WAY! Keep communicating. Send him
emojis but don’t stop there! Walk to classes together and study with each other.
Studying isn’t boring when you’re with a special someone. Post pictures of the
two of you on Instagram or add a picture to your Snapchat story, but don’t
overwhelm your followers because some people don’t appreciate when couples rub
their relationship status into their faces.
Also, keep in mind if you’re only having
conversation through your phone and not face-to-face, then it’s not really a relationship, but
more of an, “I like you in a nonsocial way.” If you're too shy to go up to him
at first (yes, awkwardness is always to be expected), then suggest a phone
call. All these things lead to what both people in a relationship look forward
to going on a date.
NOW YOU’RE FREAKING OUT BECAUSE WHAT IF
THE DATE IS BORING? WHAT IF IT’S AWKWARD AND MY HAIR IS MESSED UP? WHAT IF I
FREAK OUT AND PUKE ON THEM? Calm down, calm down. These questions are what go
on in most people’s minds. If not then good for you, this must not be your
first rodeo. To address the first question, it is important for you to choose
an exciting place because of science. Science says that when you’re having fun
and are at a very happy state, then chemicals are released in your brain that
make you associate the person as being fun and exciting. It’s good to give them
a suggestion or have your friend drop them a hint about where to go. I highly
recommend ice-skating or roller-skating. The possibilities are endless for
where you go on the first date, but the essential thing is that you are both
enjoying each other’s company.
You’ve got it down now! You’re doing
awesome! You both make a very cute couple, and you’ve even gone on a third date
already, but something’s not right. There isn’t much communicating going on
other than texting and it’s hard to tell if he’s still interested in being in a
relationship. Now this is going on inside your head, “UGGGGGGGH!” Here’s the
mistake that many people make; they don’t ask what’s wrong. You’ve got to be the
bigger person and ask what’s going on.
Speaking from personal experience, it’s
worse to be left wondering about what happened and have the relationship end
than it is to find out and break up. And maybe you do break up and feel like a
ton of bricks rained down on you as you’re swallowed into an abyss, don’t be
discouraged because it happens to so many people. Eat ice cream, talk with
friends, and know that there are other fish in the sea.
Now, relationships don’t always end on short notice,
maybe you and your boyfriend are still together, but maybe you have moved on
from the person you thought would be your future husband. Life is still going
great and you’ve learned through the crazy journey of dating how you act in a
relationship and you probably found something out about yourself that was always
hidden in the back of your brain. You’ve still got your friends, still got your
ice cream, and life goes on because now, you’ve got another crush.
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